It’s the whole tried and failed thing she was curious about and that would be different this time. She wasn’t trying to give up, she was giving up this time. And if for some reason, tomorrow she found herself lighting up again, it wouldn’t be because she had failed, it would be because she had chosen to start smoking. She would have given up and chosen to start again, she hadn’t tried and failed.
Read MoreIt is the pain that is what brings the ability to know joy, the dark is what allows the light, so all I can do is live my truth, treat others with compassion and a tender heart and know that it is only in being all of me that I can truly serve.
By being true to myself I allow others to do the same and in the end it is your truth that will truly set you free
Read MoreLife is either fear or love, there is nothing else.
Life is either fear or love, there is nothing else. Ultimately prevention is better than cure. If I could create one thing for my kids it would be the undeniable knowledge that they are enough. I now choose to stop trying to make my kids mini versions of what I want, or think I want. I now choose to just let them go and tell them they are loved and safe to make mistakes and discover the world and that they will be just fine.
I then need to tell myself the same...and genuinely hear it.
Read MoreWhilst sick, received a friendly advice to "lean in to the healing, take your time to heal deeply."
So for the past few days I have chosen differently. It is a challenge when there are still kids to care for, a business to run and life to live but I have been conscious in my choices, actively leaning in and asking myself what I need to heal. I have been journalling, resting, sitting in the sun quietly and trying to be mindful of what my body, mind and soul are calling for in each moment and I know that because of this extra time and attention this week I will be "well" more often into the future. When someone is unwell now I will encourage them to lean into the healing, to get well deeper and to stay well longer.
Read MoreLike a perfect shower it is the mix of the hot and cold, the in and the out, that brings the aaaahhhh!
Read MoreWhere are you being a snail in your life, dragging around the old and familiar? Anxious not to pop out in case you get hurt, in case someone sees you, in case you actually do find something better on the other side and then don't know how to let go......too risky?
Really????
Some may argue that I am over simplifying things and that these shifts are all easier said than done. I would argue, all you need is love.
Read MoreA Cherokee elder was teaching his children about life. He said to them, “A terrible fight is going on inside me. It is a fight between two wolves. One is the wolf of joy, love, hope, kindness and compassion. The other is the wolf of fear, anger, cynicism, indifference and greed. The same fight is going on inside of you and every other person too.” The children thought about it for a moment and then one child asked, “Which wolf will win?” The elder replied, “Whichever one you feed.”
This story is valuable for me at present as I try to consciously redirect a conversation I am currently having with a number of individuals regarding a community development issue.
Which wolf are you choosing to feed through your actions?
Read MoreAt the junction of the roots and the branches of a tree lies the trunk, made up of layers of wood, or growth rings.
Exhibiting characteristics defined by the branches and the roots, the growth rings vary in width and strength depending on the climatic conditions experienced by the tree during that year. In a tough season the rings are narrow and the wood is strong, the tree puts all its focus and energy into building strength and resilience.
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